How Deep Should You Be Buried? (Not a Trick Question)

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How deep should I be buried when I die?”—Congratulations, you’re officially fun at parties and thinking ahead.

The answer might surprise you: three to four feet. That’s it. Not six feet under. Not entombed in a concrete bunker like a vampire no one trusts. Just a cozy, breathable, dirt-rich three to four feet.

Why? Well, for most of human history, burial meant placing a shrouded, unembalmed body into a simple hole in the ground. No metal casket. No concrete vault. No makeup that makes you look like a wax figure at Madame Tussauds. Just you and the earth, reconnecting the old-fashioned way.

Then the 20th century came along and said, “Wait, what if we wrapped the dead in steel, pickled them in chemicals, and locked them in a concrete box?” (To which the planet responded: “Please don’t.”)

Each year in Canada, traditional burials consume approximately 4,500 litres of formaldehyde-based embalming fluid, 97 tonnes of steel, 2,000 tonnes of concrete, and 56,000 board feet of tropical hardwood per acre of cemetery space. These figures highlight the substantial environmental impact of conventional burial practices. That’s not a burial—it’s a construction project.

Green burial flips that script. And here’s where the magic of 3-4 feet comes in:

 It’s All About the Oxygen

• At this shallower depth, you’re in the aerobic zone—where oxygen-loving microbes do their best work turning you into excellent compost. It’s decomposition with flair.

The Soil is Happier Here

• This is where the richest, most biologically active soil lives. It’s like the VIP section for decomposition: warm, lively, and full of beneficial insects ready to help you transition back into the web of life.

 No Need to Worry About Wildlife

• Three to four feet is also deep enough to deter most curious critters. No raccoons invited. Just nature’s clean-up crew—like carrion beetles—who’ve been doing this job way longer than any funeral director.

And It’s Existentially Grounding (Pun Intended)

• There’s something humbling and even joyful about knowing you’ll one day feed a tree. Embracing decay can actually be an ecstatic reminder that you’re alive now. Breath in your lungs. Blood in your veins. Feet on the earth—until you’re in it.

So next time someone asks, “Six feet under, right?”, feel free to smile and say, “Actually, I’m going green. Just three to four feet will do.”

And then watch their face as they slowly realize you’re being totally, natural.

Decisions

by Katherine Gyles

Life has a way of shifting our priorities—often without warning. A terminal diagnosis may suddenly demand medical decisions, family conversations, and treatment planning. A decline in mobility might prompt a move or the need for new support’s. The loss of a beloved partner could bring the challenge of navigating life alone. What do all these moments have in common? Decisions.

The best decisions—the ones that sit right in your bones—come from exploring your options, weighing what matters most, and reflecting deeply on your values, health, and lifestyle needs.

Some people turn to healthcare providers for guidance. Others seek out legal, financial, or end-of-life advisors. Increasingly, individuals are also turning to death doulas—trained professionals who provide non-medical, holistic support through dying, death, and grief. A death doula can help you and your loved ones navigate complex emotional, spiritual, and practical terrain, ensuring your decisions reflect who you are and how you wish to be cared for.

Trusted family members and close friends often play a vital role too, acting as sounding boards and support systems.

In the end, it’s up to you to make the small and large decisions—choices you can stand by and find peace with. Ideally, these decisions are written down to ensure clarity, follow-through, and flexibility as your circumstances evolve.

So, how prepared are you for life’s next curveball? Are you clear on the values and preferences that guide your choices? Do you have a trusted circle—including professionals like death doulas—ready to support you?

We’re here to help you build a plan that brings confidence—and calm—in the face of whatever comes next.

Dollars 
Ah, money – that little paper or shiny metal that keeps everything moving, even if it feels like it’s always slipping through your fingers when you need it most. In Canada, hospital visits are free (yay!), but everything else – from medications to the cost of dying and funeral arrangements – can feel like you’re suddenly signed up for a VIP package you didn’t ask for. The extras? They sure add up fast. But don’t panic – we’ve got you covered with a sliding scale for our service fees because no one should have to choose between dignity and their bank balance. Pay what you can, when you can! We believe everyone deserves access to compassionate, respectful end-of-life services, regardless of how many “Dollars” are sitting in the bank. So, we offer a sliding scale based on the household income of the person who has died and/or the person responsible for payment at the time of death. This way, we can ensure families of all incomes can make dignified choices during such a challenging time. And while we’re on the subject of “Dollars,” let’s also take a moment to appreciate the real treasure: our service providers. These amazing folks pour their time, energy, and expertise into making this transition as smooth and peaceful as possible.  They give their hearts at life’s final threshold —honour their gift by giving what you can.

Death Doulas: the only people who can make both existential dread and funeral planning feel like a warm hug. Think of us as the sherpas of the afterlife trek—minus the oxygen tanks but fully stocked with tissues, tea, and an uncanny ability to discuss mortality over muffins. We’re not grim reapers (too dramatic) or funeral directors (too formal); we’re the compassionate, candle-holding, plan-making, deep-listening companions who ensure you exit with style, grace, and maybe even a playlist that doesn’t include “My Heart Will Go On.” Whether it’s holding space for final wishes, guiding loved ones through post-death chaos, or helping you decide between a biodegradable burial or a Viking-style sendoff (local bylaws permitting), we’ve got you covered.

Here is a thing to consider… you in diapers again.  When people are contemplating their end-of-life plans (and there aren’t enough of you doing that) a common marker is whether you can manage to take yourself to the bathroom or not.  Sometimes folks say when the day comes that they can’t manage their own ablutions, they will sign out.  However, when that day comes, they usually don’t choose to check out.

So adult diapers, good that someone thought of that.   For a variety of reasons adults need this product for more flexibility in their lives.  Most of us will end up using adult diapers.  After we go through rejecting, secrecy, humiliation, adjusting, surrendering, may we find adapting, ease and gratitude.  Maybe give you and diapers some thought.  Oh, and please consider the eco-friendly reusable types.  Mother earth doesn’t need her rich soil full of diapers…. Better off to poo directly into the garden.

Many things from the start of life years visit us again in the end of life years.  Vulnerability is warriorship.